Common Questions

We can't agree about who the children should live with

Last reviewed in November 2017 by the Clicklaw Editors

When a couple with children separates, they must make important decisions about the children. They must decide where the children will now live and how each parent can continue to be involved in their lives. 

Good starting points include:

If there is abuse in the family, see the common question What happens with parenting of the children in cases of spousal abuse?

Need more help?

  • Family Justice Centres, from the provincial government, has family justice counsellors who can help parents resolve disagreements without going to court. They provide short-term counselling, mediation, and referrals, but not legal advice.
  • Family LawLINE, from Legal Services Society, provides legal advice about family law issues for low-income people.
  • Mediate BC has a list of qualified family mediators. Some mediators may offer services on a sliding scale or probono. Contact the mediator to enquire. 
  • Lawyer Referral Service, from CBA BC, helps you connect with a lawyer for an initial consultation of up to 30 minutes for $25 plus taxes.
  • Find more help near you on Clicklaw HelpMap.

See our related common questions:

custody of children, divorce & separation, parenting arrangements, contact, rights of children & teens