Common QuestionsWe can't agree about who the children should live with
When a couple with children separates, there are important decisions to make about where the children will now live and how each parent can continue to be involved in their lives.
Good starting points include:
- Custody and Access, Guardianship, Parenting Arrangements and Contact, from the Canadian Bar Association, BC Branch, discusses the options available for both married and unmarried parents.
- Living Together or Living Apart: Common-Law Relationships, Marriage, Separation, and Divorce, from Legal Services Society, explains the basics of family law in BC. The chapter "If you have children" includes parenting arrangements, contact and moving with a child.
- I just separated from the other parent of my children, from Legal Help for British Columbians, outlines first steps, and where to get help.
- If your parents separate, can you decide which parent you want to live with?, from Legal Services Society, is a fact sheet describing the rights of youth when their parents separate and what the courts consider when making custody decisions.
If there is abuse in the family, see the common question What happens with parenting of the children in cases of spousal abuse?
See our related common questions:
- custody of children, divorce & separation, parenting arrangements, contact, rights of children & teens
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